Find A Friend - Some Tips for Finding and Building Great Friendships

A friend is someone we care for, whom we rely on in times of happiness and adversity.  It is someone to whom we share our real feelings, through the ups and downs life life.  A friend is someone who encourages us when we feel that the world is very heavy to carry, who inspires us when the mountain is impossible to climb, who accepts us for who really we are. A friend always freely listens to our dreams and sentiments in life and tries to understand us, who openly offer his/her shoulder for us to cry on. A friend is also someone who sincere and constructively criticizes our wrong doings but very much willing to accept us as we are. Truly, a friend is one of the greatest gifts of God to us.

Finding a acquaintances is easy. In contrast, to find a friend in the truest sense can be very challenging. It is because to find a friend do not require an application of force but instead, friends come into our life as an unexpected blessing. Perhaps, the process of finding a friend and friendship still remain a mysterious part of our life. It also continuously plays a significant role to our lives as the inner core of all kinds of relationships. As an illustration, we can treat our parents as a friend but we cannot treat our friends as our parents.  

To find a friend does not require us to exert effort and strength. Sometimes, the only reason why we don’t have friends or we are not capable of finding a friend is because of our attitude and behavior. This is the thought that we must ponder on for us to find more friends to cherish.  Another point that we must put into consideration is the fact that we are expecting too much from our friends. That is why, before finding a friend, it is wise to think first on what kind of friend we are planning to find. We need to consider that different people have different attitudes, so think of how we like to be treated by our friends and later on treat our friends based on our expectations from them. We need to put in our mind that finding a friend and building a good relationship does not happen over night, and requires nurture and time to grow and to bear fruits.

To find a friend, communication is also very important.  Look for common ground when seeking a friend.  Find shared interests you share to talk about and discuss.  

Now that we covered how to find a friend, the next question is, where can we find new friends?

Many of us find friends in our schools, in our workplaces, in the streets and in the organizations where we dedicate ourselves to serve and so on. Nowadays, with the latest technologies  we have, many people are able to find friends through involvement in various social networking sites.  These online sites not only offer you an opportunity for you and your friends to communicate with each other but also it will give you the chance to find more friends as you can in different parts of the world.

One such site, is called FriendUp.   It enables you to connect with people who share many similar interests with you.  The idea being, the more you have in common, the more there is to talk about and share.   It achieves this through 3 steps:   

1) Defining your interests and filter settings, 

2) FriendUp automatically connects you to users who share the greatest number of your interests within the filter parameters you have defined,   

3) “Friend Up” your connections.  You can communicate with them both individually and as a group.

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